
Here's a picture of Melissa and Emily from about three years ago with their grandma and nan. While everyone looks delighted, this was a rare moment of being all together on Mother's Day. Asking grandparents to look after baby or toddler twins so that you can return to work, however, may prove an unrealistic option.
Having started to add some previous articles from Russia to this blog, it has also occured to me that it's also a place to post previous pieces about twins and more. Features are sitting in my document files on my home computer and I have previously discussed putting them online as a resource for families with Helen Forbes, the director of Tamba as many of them were written for the charity's magazine, Twins, Triplets & More.
Anyway, here goes with the first, it's a round-up of options for mums of multiple birth children contemplating going back to work - although for financial reasons, that's not always possible. It's important to note that the prices quoted for various services are now out of date.
Returning to work for mums of multiples
Worried sick about going back to work? Don't know where to start when finding childcare for your babies? Overwhelmed by rules and regulations or the potential cost? LINDA JONES has carried out an exclusive survey for Tamba so other mums can share their experiences with you.
IF and when to return to work is arguably the biggest issue facing mothers today.
For many there is no choice if the bills are to be paid. Juggling family and work commitments and agonising over childcare options become a way of life.
Scarcely a day goes by without another study about the effect mum working has on her baby, seemingly designed to heap more guilt and stress on an already hectic day, whatever the individual's choice. Go back to work and the baby suffers, says one camp. Stay at home and your career does, says another.
But while these mixed messages are of primary concern to mothers of single babies, for mums of multiples they may be irrelevant. They may not have the luxury of debating whether they have made the right choice because there is no choice.
Often they cannot afford to go back or do not have the energy.
And while it may be okay to ask Grandma to look after one baby while you're at work five days a week, it's out of the question for twins, triplets and more.
For single parents, the pressures are even greater.
Then of course there's the ignorance of supposed professionals to contend with. There's the childminder who insists that looking after two babies is the same as looking after one, the well-meaning lady in social services, who hasn't got a clue and the nursery that insists on always lumping your children together.
So what are the realistic choices? Here, women in varying circumstances explain their decisions.